FROM THE SWAMP TO THE MEADOW: LEFT BRAIN, RIGHT BRAIN FUSION
In most educational activities the focus is on learning how to do something effectively and elegantly and then encouraging the practice of behaviors, holding the thoughts and emotions that delivers success. In the self-improvement, mental health arena, we are presented with an apparently different task. People, who in many ways are survivors of life experiences and trauma, and in varying degrees competent and successful in their lives, present themselves with a problem, or set of problems that has them feeling bewildered, overwhelmed, helpless. The intention of counseling is to help the client identify and then change behaviors, thoughts, feelings that have not worked with the hope that new behaviors, thoughts, emotions will be generated and these will work more effectively. The focus of much counseling practice is on what is not working with the hope that the person will learn how they can get from here to a better there. Traditionally many why type questions are asked with answers that defy explanation, and can take months or years to explore with the final question remaining: now that you know why something happened, what are you going to do about it, when are you going to do it, how are you going to go about doing it. Well, I hope you get the picture. Knowing why can be helpful, but usually exists in a past that is no longer the present. Presented problems also present only one point of view, remembered with selective memory that is not very accurate. Well, it’s a long list of stuck points, distortions and memories that are just not accurate and may not be true.
The swamp to the meadow is a straight forward tool that helps present a map of the territory for getting from here to there. It asks the basic question,” if you want to be here (the meadow) why do you continue to practice thoughts, feelings, behaviors that leave you there (the swamp)”?
One way to present this dilemma is the proposed, “I need to change my behavior, but I can’t change my behavior as long as I keep thinking certain thoughts, caused by certain beliefs – that I believe to be true when they’re not, but I think they are. So I have certain feelings/emotions because there’s a disconnect between the half of my brain thinks logically and rationally, and defines problems, searches for answers and reaches conclusions vs the part of my brain/mind that is beholden to a whole other reality or set of realities that resonates to vibrations with different, non-verbal language, different perspective, different rules. If the two sides aren’t congruent, then the resulting resonance will be discord. And we’re stuck. In the Swamp.
A basic rule of human behavior is that “ Everyone in every situation does the best they can with the resources they have available.” If I look at that “rule”, and want to effect change, the only practical variable that can be impacted is the presence of resources.
Left brain, right brain fusion presents a graphic view of the presence of resources necessary to get out of your swamp into your meadow.
more to follow.